Author Archives: David's Father

The State of North Dakota Budget Cuts

We are beginning to see the affects that the budget cuts are having on David’s care here in North Dakota.

State seal of North Dakota
State seal of North Dakota (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


As a part of his ongoing care, I am trying to determine what services will be needed in the community for him to return home.  I am all about long range planning.

One of the key services that we utilized before placement was mentor support.  Where he spent part of a day with a mentor doing things away from the home.  It gave David a break from us and it gave the family a break from David.  Due to the budget cuts that service is largely unavailable for him now.

One mantra that we have heard here in North Dakota is that the budget cuts aren’t affecting people.

I beg to differ.  Not only are the budget cuts affecting people, they have long reaching consequences.  We can’t get a firm detailed list of what services our son would need in the community.  When I ask for such a list, it is rare when I get any form of a response.  This week, the list I received detailed things that we have either received in the past, or tried in the past and determined that David wasn’t a suitable candidate for because of his proclivity for violence.

So what do we do now?

I can’t realistically bring him home if there is a risk of violence. Without supports, community based, school based and home based, we are right back where we were a year ago.

On a side note, David continues to do well, but then he has always done well in care for the most part.  He is showing his tendency to manipulate the people around him, but most of his care team recognizes it for what it is.

Taking a Chance on Faith

Taking a Chance on Faith

With a lot of prayer, we are going to try a visit away from the safety and comfort that being in close proximity to the facility provides us.  This is about taking a chance. We are going to take a chance on faith that he is stable.  This weekend, we are going to travel to… Continue Reading

Fear and Company – Reacting to Attachment

David is doing well.  But then, he always does fairly well while he is in care. We do regular visits, when we go to the city, we try to at least take him out for a meal.  We also spend time with him at the facility and when we do our supply shopping, he goes… Continue Reading

the cynic in me

Cynic. A person who believes that only selfishness motivates human actions and who disbelieves in or minimizes selfless acts or disinterested points of view. Cynicism. The attitude or beliefs of a cynic. I spoke briefly with David’s doctor today.  Seems David is doing very well.  As well as anyone has ever seen him behave. Which… Continue Reading

Anxiety – Internal Struggles with oneself

Hi, this is a post about Anxiety. I don’t know about triggers for anxiety, but you should be aware of that before reading further if you are easily triggered. thank you for reading. Long time no post. Seriously though with David in the facility there hasn’t been a lot to say.  Especially because I don’t… Continue Reading

he is a known liar. why believe him?

I get calls from David.  Complaining about this or that.  Today he was refusing to go to school. After explaining why he didn’t want to go to school, I let David know that he can’t hide from whatever or whomever he thinks is bothering him.  And that he should go to school. I figured that… Continue Reading

Erasing The Stigma That Comes With Mental Illness

Erasing the Stigma

While it may seem easy for me to say something like “we should not stigmatize the mentally ill for the mental illnesses that they have”, because in reality, the mentally ill have no more control over their illness than someone with a neuropathy, or cancer.  David, for example, didn’t ask to have mental illnesses.  He… Continue Reading

Communication – yes, it is important.

I make no secret.  I love to communicate with people. When it comes to David, I like to receive as much as I can via email, as it lets me have a documented record of what facilities and I see to each other. However. If my son has done something that necessitates intervention by the… Continue Reading