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he is a known liar. why believe him?

I get calls from David.  Complaining about this or that.  Today he was refusing to go to school.

After explaining why he didn’t want to go to school, I let David know that he can’t hide from whatever or whomever he thinks is bothering him.  And that he should go to school.

I figured that was the end of it.

About 6 hours later, I received a call from a staff member.  David had a rough day.

He struggled with being in school because “dad told me I didn’t have to go to school today.”

Now, if David is known to lie, why would they believe him?

It would have been a simple matter to get me on the phone and ask me if I had told him that.  Quick and easy verification.

I talked to his Care Coordinator who doesn’t work in the facility where David lives, and touched base with her to keep her in the loop.  I even told her that he would probably tell them I told him it was okay to not go to school today.

Tomorrow we are going to visit.  I hope it goes well.

We do not withhold family visits as a form of punishment.  It is my hope that he won’t hide behind his “anxiety” to keep from visiting with the rest of the family.  The weather has been decent, and looks to hold for a couple of more days.

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Erasing The Stigma That Comes With Mental Illness

Erasing the Stigma

While it may seem easy for me to say something like “we should not stigmatize the mentally ill for the mental illnesses that they have”, because in reality, the mentally ill have no more control over their illness than someone with a neuropathy, or cancer.  David, for example, didn’t ask to have mental illnesses.  He… Continue Reading

Communication – yes, it is important.

I make no secret.  I love to communicate with people. When it comes to David, I like to receive as much as I can via email, as it lets me have a documented record of what facilities and I see to each other. However. If my son has done something that necessitates intervention by the… Continue Reading

Please document his actions and attitudes

David is on a track to potential discharge in March of 2016.  I won’t go in to the ins and outs of his program. I don’t necessarily agree with discharge at this point. David has been having difficulties the last two days.  And a couple of times over the last month. If his care and… Continue Reading

How can we change it? Relinquishing custody to get mental health care.

When I question something relating to David’s care, it isn’t me questioning you or your integrity.  In most cases, I am not questioning your company or organization policy.  I am questioning the system of care that forces archaic and anarchistic ideas on a population who doesn’t understand why things are the way they are. So… Continue Reading

Again with Custody

Last summer we heard from the psychiatrists, “in order to get the level of care he needs, you need to give up custody.”  I asked then, “why?” Again this month we are hearing “will you give up custody to do this… ”  and the answer isn’t easy.  It is something that we have struggled with. … Continue Reading

rising costs of mental health care

Did you know that in North Dakota, it can cost $225,000.00 to have a child in a psychiatric residential treatment facility (prtf) for one year? Seriously.  This cost doesn’t include medical services.  It doesn’t include clothing.  Pretty incredible isn’t it?  In the coming weeks, Fighting for Answers will be checking with facilities in other states… Continue Reading

Visiting David

Last week we didn’t get to see David because two of us were sick. This week, I am still not feeling well, but we went anyway. He was in a mood.  Not sure why.  He wanted to play basketball, and I couldn’t.  He wanted to play badmiton, and I couldn’t.  Part of it was because… Continue Reading