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Held Hostage by the Mental Health “care” system

I feel like our son, and by extension, the whole family, is being held hostage by the mental health care system.

Recently, he was accepted at a residential facility for treatment.

It was approved by insurance and Medicaid.

Then a company called Ascend Management got involved and denied coverage.

If I try to discipline my son for doing something wrong, he runs away.

If I try to talk to him about something he is doing he runs away.

If I try to ignore his behaviors he gets in my face and increases the behaviors.

We have done counseling.  We do psychiatric care.  We do community support.

Evidently none of that is enough.  We are supposed to travel 100 miles a day to enroll him in camps at the university in the city.  I can’t afford that.

So we are held hostage by a system of care that doesn’t care.  Maybe what I need to do is drive to Tennessee, bring my son and let him spend a couple of days with the people in that company.  The tagline on the company website says “Ensuring you receive the support and services you need.”

Don’t believe me?

The “system” of care is broken.  Now is the time to fix it.  In 4 very short years, he will be “an adult”.  At which point, I have little doubt that he will end up in prison because of his behaviors.  Prison is not the place to treat the mentally ill.  We might as well reopen all of the institutions that were closed back in the 1980’s and house the mentally ill there.

A treatment facility is not the same as a prison.  Don’t believe me?  Call your nearest facility and ask for a tour.  Then call a prison and ask for a tour.  There is a marked difference.

A Sheriff call.

Called the Sheriff tonight. Marc a couple of weeks ago racked up charges on an iPad. Today a charge showed up from Apple, related to said iPad.  I looked to Marc. He took off. I called the Sheriff. Before I could get off the phone with dispatch I had two Deputies in my driveway.  Marc… Continue Reading

Denial, Denial, Denial – Placement just fell through

Well. We were all set to take Marc to a new facility on Monday. Today, that fell through. Evidently, we haven’t tried hard enough.  We haven’t driven enough miles.  We haven’t tried this program or that. The psychiatrist’s recommendation isn’t enough.  We didn’t try to give up custody to the state. The language that the… Continue Reading

the emotional toll

As a father, society norm dictates that I am the strong one. His words are beginning to take a toll on me.  I never thought I would be a victim of verbal and mental abuse at the age of 43, but there it is. I often have difficulty with walking, get dizzy frequently, and sometimes… Continue Reading

the next few days are going to be fun!

Well, big sister stopped by with a friend for a couple of minutes.  They didn’t stay long, as Marc was in tantrum mode. You see, mom got the bandages removed today, and we just can’t have someone else get more attention than he is getting. So big sister and friend turned around and left.  I… Continue Reading

Mr Helpful – Mr Evil

Honestly, it is like looking at both sides of a coin. Last night was awful. Full tantrum because he needed to wait to take a shower until his mom had a chance to use the bathroom. Today, he is very solicitous of her needs.  Trying to anticipate things, and helped take her to the clinic… Continue Reading

Give me one more chance…

These are the words that we hear from Marc everyday when he gets caught doing something he knows he isn’t supposed to be doing. Today it was cigarette smoking.  Yep, 13 years old, wants to be a smoker.  Stealing cigarettes and lighters from either his grandpa or his aunt. What else does he do?  Surely… Continue Reading

Mr Hacker

So, in an effort to try to give him something to do, we have been periodically giving Marc time on an iPad.  One that has parental locks in place. Guess what? If you guessed that Bill Clinton was the next President of the USA, you would be wrong. If you guessed that Marc broke through… Continue Reading