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Oren Miller

This post will be a remembrance for my dear friend Oren Miller.

for now, I will put this here.  Oren’s funeral will be on Monday in Baltimore.  As I take time to process the loss of this dear friend, I will write more.

Rest easy my friend.  You taught us courage and humility through your life.

Here is a link to Oren’s blog where he first discusses his cancer diagnosis.


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nights like this

I have to wonder… “Is this behavior that of a 13 year old boy, or his mental health?” See our other two boys didn’t give us all the sass, back talk, attitude and behaviors.  Or maybe I just don’t remember the behaviors because we were so busy dealing with Marc’s issues. Not sure if that…Continue Reading

Let me tell you the real story….

Marc has been home a month.  For the most part things have gone well. Recently there has been an increase in the number of lies.  Lies about petty things that don’t need to be lied about. When confronted about lies, he says “you never believe me…” This gradually changes to “Let me tell you the…Continue Reading

Traditional vs. Non-Traditional Families

Last week, someone asked me if I was Marc’s grandfather.  This in itself isn’t a bad thing.  In the past when people have questioned Marc’s parentage, I have simply said that he is adopted.  Which is true. What is wrong with the idea that a white person would have an African-American son? Or even the…Continue Reading

Is this the start?

Caught Marc stealing food. He knows that all he has to do is tell us he is hungry. We just don’t want him hoarding food in his bedroom. Then he lies and blames it on others, including the cats. We know that with his metabolism, he burns enough food for two or three other people. …Continue Reading

I don’t understand

Something struck me this morning.  My son was in a psychiatric facility for more than a year. He was discharged when Medicaid decided to stop funding his care. No transition plan was in place the day my son was released to our care. We have made the best of the last two weeks and I…Continue Reading


With Marc home, life is interesting.  So much energy. One of our dogs, Ellis, who Marc mistakenly calls Alice has a lot of energy.  I think that Ellis has met his match in Marc. Now, I don’t believe for a moment that the Marc we are seeing is the Marc that is new and improved. …Continue Reading